Korean family and modern Korean society
Haven’t step on Korean land yet I was impressed by beauty of Korean girls – Korean stewardesses. All thin, flatly slim, very nice, friendly and smiling. Beautiful white teeth and no less white and well-groomed skin. Blue scarves tied up with pointed up ends, hairpins held pointed pins. To offer drinks and food they lean forward in a deep bow, looking into your eyes and a few minutes later, smiling, sit down on one knee next to the one who called her for some business in the other end of the salon.
The movement of the body, hands, eyes of the Korean women is fascinating. A feeling that they do not walk, but move in the air, slightly pushing it apart. Despite the fact that the 21st century is in the court and the country has gone far ahead in economic development, people – their soul and thoughts remained in a traditional flow.
Korea has its own story on the eternal theme of sex, violence, sacrifice and heroism. In the fortress of Sunchon Naganypsong during the Korean-Japanese war, kesan (geisha) seized the Japanese general and rushed with him from the cliff into the sea. Now Koreans whole companies come to rest in a small pagoda, built on a historical site and tell the story to the children and guests pointing to the picture of the hero – sweet little woman. Although for Korean women, especially for kisan, this is not typical, usually they are the victims themselves. According to the ancient Korean tradition the attempt of rape threatened Korean girl with death. In this case, it was customary to carry a silver knife in the folds of the “hanbok” – sundress. If a man tried to take her by force, she had to hurt herself or kill because that was the only way to wash away the shame from her family.
In olden times in Korea boys were married very early at the age of 12 and the girls got married at 16. The wife was always older than her husband. Even till now in the remote villages traditions of engagement of children since their birth were saved. Often a young man and a girl knowing about the existence of each other, live not meeting until the wedding.
In Korea, a guy before the wedding can have any relationship with the opposite sex, but the girl must remain chaste. A prerequisite for marriage is the blessing of the father and mother. Parents still have not only to raise and give education to their children until they come of age, but are responsible for the organization of the family life of the young couple. The wedding is also their direct duty and if all the expenses are borne by the newlyweds themselves they have right not to organize their parents a major for all Koreans holiday – the 65th anniversary. It turns out a wise chain of kinship and duties and interests to each other. Read also: Interesting facts about Korean women
The birth of a child in a Korean family is of great importance. Although, if a girl is born in a young family this is not celebrated at all. Till now in some villages the birth of the son is preferable, it is always a holiday, but the daughter is just a free addition. One of the most important dates that are celebrated by Korean families is the celebration of the first birthday of the child. In other words, a child actually exists for a year, but theoretically he begins his life only with an annual mark. On this day all the relatives solemnly gather. The fate of the newborn is determined by three things. The child is seated at the table, and various objects are laid out before him. For example, food – rise, as usual, paper, scissors, money, pencils. And baby must pick three things out of this whole variety. But child has to take it, not to throw it back. Sometimes parents try to take away what their child took, and if he does not give up, then the choice is made correctly. Of course, kind relatives are trying to put money or jewelry closer to the child.
Children in Korea are something special. Since childhood they are taught to love and cherish their country, to respect and honor the elders. No surprise you will find in all the elevators special stands for small, allowing them to reach the buttons. And in all toilets must be present low wash-handles for children. It seems that everything in Korea is made for children and for the sake of children.
The country over the past eight years has made a tremendous leap in many areas of science and from prosperous turned to a rich country. And Koreans say that this happened largely due to the fact that on the eve of the Millennium celebration each child received as a gift from the government the most modern and sophisticated computer and in addition the right to use the Internet for free for a year. Now these children have grown up and many of them are working hard at Hyundai Motor Company, LG Electronics, Samsung Corporation and many other companies, ensuring their country prosperity and further breakthrough in the future.
And in specially equipped computer classes children from the age of two begin to teach computer skills and not only in Korean language. In the kindergarten children are taught good manners, the basics of cooking; they are taken to shopping, where they learn to shop and to museums – where they learn to appreciate and understand art. They are also periodically taken out of the city, accustomed to love to appreciate and observe the nature. And first of all those are children who examine Europeans or Americans with interest. Flocks of beautiful girls are running near you and say “hi” and then look into your eyes and the European or American feels like an alien from another planet.
Some older and more daring, come closer and welcome you in English and especially brave sometimes even shake hands. They use any moment to practice English and some, however, are being pushed to do so by their parents. But in the general mass people do not speak English yet. Any person who speaks even relatively bad English is considered to be American.
Some Korean ladies wear a swastika in the form of a gold pendant on a chain. However, this is the “right swastika”, or solar, and its rays, unlike the fascist, look counter-clockwise. The swastika is a sacred symbol of Buddhism, a symbol of the movement of life, a symbol of the sun, light and well-being. And in Korea, all Buddhist temples and monasteries are marked on the maps with a solar swastika – a symbol of long life and prosperity.
Touching a white woman, according to the Eastern belief, brings health – so if you are European looking lady, be ready some old ladies might touch you in any possible way. And some will warn you in advance what they want to do.
Korean men are simply obliged to achieve success in the professional sphere in order to support the family. And many have to sleep for no more than 5 hours a day. Many office workers have a little time for dating and prefer to do it quickly. In South Korea, in addition to just nightclubs there are so-called booking clubs. If the Korean visits booking club then he himself or a waiter for $ 20 tip will bring the liked girls from neighboring table without men, firmly grasping their wrists. Girls at the same time defiantly resist, squeal and even bite, but sitting down at a table politely introduce themselves and ask for a drink. Such is the ritual and they know which place they came. They have free drinks and the opportunity to get acquainted and they can be anyone – a housewife or a housekeeper, a student, a business lady, a model – the most buzz is in unpredictability. But if the ladies do not like the man they politely escape after the first glass under the reason they need to make some make up. But the interested young man will have time, if he wants to take their telephone numbers for the future. And then the other girls take their place and such a kaleidoscope goes here on and on.
Work for man in Korean family is on the first place and love is somewhere in the last rows. Here, women can sacrifice themselves if a man suffers from lack of work – for example, to part with him, like it’s because of love, so as not to interfere him. When husbands come home they often scold their wives, tear off the stress they received in their work and wives must patiently endure it. But the new generation of Korean girls does not accept that anymore. In Korea man considers to be the only worker and earn enough to supply wife and children with all needed. If wife chooses to work Korean feels embarrassed and this is a shame for him because he thinks it shouldn’t be like this when woman works. Read also: Korean husbands are good option for foreign brides